some thoughts

Radical kindness Innocent yet not naive Vulnerable yet not fragile Naked yet not self-conscious Generous yet not sacrificial Gentle yet...

There is a kinship between suicide and mysticism: both seek the end of the “self” as a release from suffering. Both are willing to fall into Death’s embrace in search of new life. Both have access to altered states of consciousness—consider, for example, the well-documented sense of “calm” that often precedes a suicidal act.

What can be given to me, I don’t want. What can be taken away from me, I don’t need. - paraphrased after Eric Baret In traditions that...

What if you truly surrendered and committed to the truth that longs to reveal itself through your body?

The Tibetan Buddhist tradition uses the metaphor of the three Lords to evaluate if you are slipping into spiritual materialism : Lord of...

It is a petition to be without identity, to be nothing and nobody (or everything and everybody, if you prefer). It is a suspension of societ

Holding onto the concept of God as a benevolent father or mother will leave us bewildered and tossed about in the ocean of confusion, as our

"Most men are unlikely to respond to what they may hear as a feminist call for guilt, contrition, submission and/or disempowerment, yet...

Meditation (and mindfulness-related processes) and dissociation can overlap. Both can help us become more present, still, grounded in the mo

Feeling guilty means believing you've done something wrong and feeling bad about it. It can serve as a useful signal—a prompt to care...

my prayer begins in the shadow most intimate lover of my pain destitute and abandoned I lift my eyes in gratitude broken and lost...

Comment from a reader on this blog post ( existential kink: undoing ourselves with radically owned honesty ): “ How beautiful, and...

Comment from a reader on this blog post ( existential kink: undoing ourselves with radically owned honesty ): “I feel that a lot of zen...

“What can be given to me is of no interest. I’m only interested in what no one can give me or take away from me. Everything else is...

“Eroticism is assenting to life up to the point of death” - Georges Bataille The erotic is a place where extremes touch. It is where...

"A spiritual practice is liberating when it deconstructs the external and internalized power structures that shape how we speak, act,...

"Radically owned honesty means disclosing yourself completely while taking full responsibility for your experience." drawing by Kerry...

"Presence is  care. To be witnessed in the fullness of your humanity is  being cared for." Caring for each other creates community,...

“Not pushing forward, finally going nowhere.” Most of us are, in some way, preoccupied with the “project” of our lives: becoming the best...

"If something bothers me, it means I reversed things. The problem is not out there. The problem is here." – Eric Baret In response to my...