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"Presence is care. To be witnessed in the fullness of your humanity is being cared for." Caring for each other creates community, connection, safety, and comfort. When I am cared for, I relax, and in the comfort and safety of a caring community, I can allow myself to be vulnerable, fall apart, and find a space to heal. This experience empowers me. Care is a value cherished by most societies, and it is reflected in how a society treats its children, the needy, the sick, the

“Not pushing forward, finally going nowhere.” Most of us are, in some way, preoccupied with the “project” of our lives: becoming the best version of ourselves, finding and following a higher “purpose”, changing the world, making a lasting contribution, and creating meaning. In spiritual terms, this might sound like: striving for awakening, healing traumas, opening to unity consciousness, becoming love, raising kundalini energy, channeling the divine, cleansing away negative e

"If something bothers me, it means I reversed things. The problem is not out there. The problem is here." – Eric Baret In response to my...

"Humility is the willingness to become undone. It’s about being available—without projecting my truth, consolidating my identity, or...

Sexuality is often seen as an act of pleasure, intimacy, stress relief, or bonding. But at its core, it can serve as a powerful engine...

“Let's face it. We're undone by each other. And if we're not, we're missing something.” Judith Butler image by Jeff Stanislawski At around 18, I found myself, somewhat by surprise, in a small Franciscan monastery where I would spend the better part of my youth. A young monk had invited me after a university lecture in Leuven. I didn’t believe a word he said, so, in my innocent enthusiasm, I ventured to his monastery, mostly to question why he—and his brothers—gave up their li

At the core of life as a monk is the inexorable willingness to be fully available, to stand naked at the edge of our awareness and let ourse