attachment
repair
what is attachment?
Attachment is the emotional bond formed between the ages of approximately 12 and 20 months, based on the behavior of your parents or caregivers. It creates the blueprint for all your future connections: with others, yourself, and the world
what is insecure
attachment?
We talk about insecure attachment when a relational pattern that used to be adaptive in the context of unpredictable or unreliable caregivers is continued into adulthood where it is no longer adaptive.
what is the impact of insecure attachment?
Our attachment patterns determine how we communicate and connect with others. They shape the quality and longevity (or absence) of our romantic relationships, how we interact with friends, family, and colleagues, and how we feel about ourselves.
attachment patterns can change
you can acquire secure attachment even after a problematic youth
are you avoidant in relationships?
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Are you constantly trying to maintain the "right" distance (not too close)?
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Do you find it difficult to open up or be truly vulnerable with your partner or significant others?
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Do you look for flaws in your partner or significant others?
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Is the emotional intensity of connection sometimes overwhelming?
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Do you avoid intimacy and closeness?
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Do you have a positive image of yourself and a negative image of others?
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Do you feel you don't need a relationship to be complete?
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Do you want to avoid depending on others, and also avoid having others depend on you?
are you anxious in relationships?
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Are you constantly thinking about how to make your significant other happy?
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Are you afraid of being abandoned?
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Do you overthink your significant other's words and actions?
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Do you find it difficult to trust your significant other?
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Is your relationship your top priority, leaving you constantly alert to potential threats?
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Do you cling to relationships for your happiness and to give meaning to your life?
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Do you have a negative image of yourself and a positive image of others?
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Are you worried that your partner is not as invested in the relationship as you are?
attachment patterns
integrative attachment therapy
Who is it for?
Anyone interested in gaining a deeper understanding of themselves and their way of connecting with others and themselves.
What will it bring you?
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Profound insight into yourself
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Deep, fulfilling connections
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Lasting relationships and friendships
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Inner peace
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A sense of safety
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Self-control
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Emotional regulation (improved ability to handle stress)
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A general sense of well-being
How does a standard trajectory look like?
We start with 10 sessions:
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session 1: adult attachment interview: exploring your attachment strategies
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session 2: feedback about the interview & psycho-education about attachment
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sessions 3 through 9: attachment repair
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session 10: evaluation (& continuation)
The length of your path to acquired secure attachment depends on the nature of your attachment wounds and the effectiveness of our collaboration.
How much does it cost?
There are different prices depending on your income:
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€ 90 (low to middle income, including BTW for private clients, excluding BTW for clients with invoice)
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€ 125 (middle to high income, including BTW for private clients, excluding BTW for clients with invoice)
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€ 175 (for businesses and organisations, BTW excluded)
To be payed on account number IBAN BE44 7370 5359 2745 (tav Stijn Smeets) before the session.
Stijn Smeets has a PhD in psychology and is trained in Integrative Attachment Therapie (IAT). In addition, he's a meditation teacher, an artist-monk at House of the beloved. Since 2013 he guides adults and youngsters in finding themselves and their place in the world. His meditation teacher Daniel P. Brown -also co-creator of the IAT- spurred his interest in attachment repair as a necessity for personal liberation.
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