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existential kink: undoing ourselves with radically owned honesty
"Radically owned honesty means disclosing yourself completely while taking full responsibility for your experience." drawing by Kerry Kisbey From a reader: “What if the truly enlightened thing would be to actually fully own the judgements and resentments we have towards others, and bring this honestly in the dynamic, trusting that the other one will defend their own self-love, and personal path to enlightenment, owning our humanity, instead of trying to be the bigger person ?

Stijn Smeets
Oct 6, 20244 min read


caring by not taking care
"Presence is care. To be witnessed in the fullness of your humanity is being cared for." Caring for each other creates community, connection, safety, and comfort. When I am cared for, I relax, and in the comfort and safety of a caring community, I can allow myself to be vulnerable, fall apart, and find a space to heal. This experience empowers me. Care is a value cherished by most societies, and it is reflected in how a society treats its children, the needy, the sick, the

Stijn Smeets
Oct 3, 20244 min read


stop colonising yourself
“Not pushing forward, finally going nowhere.” Most of us are, in some way, preoccupied with the “project” of our lives: becoming the best version of ourselves, finding and following a higher “purpose”, changing the world, making a lasting contribution, and creating meaning. In spiritual terms, this might sound like: striving for awakening, healing traumas, opening to unity consciousness, becoming love, raising kundalini energy, channeling the divine, cleansing away negative e

Stijn Smeets
Oct 1, 20243 min read
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